Don’t be lured by their supportive display. Sooner or later, they will drop their mask of niceness.
If you have experienced this kind of psychological abuse, specifically manipulating your emotions and altering reality, know that you can you recognize and stop it. We often don’t realize that it’s happening to us until we almost lose our minds in relying in to what they’re saying.
In case you didn’t know yet, Gaslighting is a form emotional abuse. It’s a manipulation and a series distortion of reality. Let’s say someone is acting too naive and innocent about certain situation. You will hear a lot of excuses until all the blame is on you. It’s a way of destroying someone’s perspective because Gaslighters can’t bear other view points. Sometimes, their words are totally different from their actions. They will keep on denying things where a repeated pattern of gaining control to a person is happening.
To be fair, some Gaslighters are not aware of what they are doing. Oftentimes, they just got it from the way they were raised. They are the ones who have been manipulated in the first place and who got used to their abusive parents. But for some cases, others have ego-syntonic personality who believe that they are not absolutely wrong. They will just keep on refusing in acknowledging that their behavior is the problem.
So, to get out from this dangerous and dark kind of moral, we list some benefits of being mindful to recognize Gaslighting.
More so, they are good at buttering people up. After they get what they wanted from you, they will eventually drop their masks. So, if you think their friendliness is too good to be true, learn to distance yourself. Learn how to discern what’s real to the facade they’ve build.
Through this you can cultivate self-trust, instead of drowning in their distorted reality. Know that there’s nothing wrong if you want to take a break from everything.
Don’t Fall into that Explanation Trap
Words cut too deep. So, before letting those exchanged phrases echo in your mind, remove yourself from that toxic conversation. Like what they say, it’s good to lose the argument than the person you’re talking to. But still respond with kindness and distant yourself for awhile until that person learn how to accept his/her mistake. Clearing our minds can be a good thing to do.
Let’s learn how not to engage into toxic conversations to made them realize that we don’t want to fall in their pit anymore.
Moreover, this kind of situation is inevitable but don’t forget to still do good despite of everything. But don’t forget to let your guard down. We can forgive them silently and continue thriving for yourself to be a better person. At the end of the day, we live only once in this fleeting world.