This Is How I Learned To Be Kinder To Myself
January 14, 2020 Franchesca Rivera
Sometimes we can be our own harshest critic. So this 2020 it’s time for a little kindness and compassion!
This is the story of how I learned to be kinder to myself.
Every one of us has internal struggles every day that is privy only in the deepest of our thoughts. And I can say with some confidence that, there is not a single person on the face of the planet that was once or is, their own harshest critic. And although criticizing yourself is not essentially wrong. Because sometimes it keeps your mind grounded and clear. But more often than not, it hurts you more than you realize.
It was not so long ago, that I was my own harshest critic. I was always hard on myself for the tiniest misstep, the smallest of failures, or the slightest of errors. And it wasn’t until I was at my lowest that I had a moment of clarity. It was just another small mistake, but I was stressing over it nonetheless. And that’s when it hit me, “Nobody else seems to be bothered by it? So why should it bother me this much?”
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I decided to work on how I address my self-criticism in a kinder and more compassionate way.
But this isn’t a story of how I decided to not-give-a-f*ck, this is the story of how I learned to be kinder to myself. So what did I do? I decided to work on how I address my self-criticism in a kinder and more compassionate way. I didn’t need another bully in my life, because other people can easily fill that role. No, what I needed was a cheerleader, a life-coach. So I became one, for me.
So during times where I would experience failure, instead of telling myself that I’m not good enough. I would stop my thoughts and remember that failure is part of the process and that I just need to keep going.
And as humans are, we are bound to make mistakes. So I decided to stop badgering myself every time I made a mistake. And instead, congratulate myself on being human, and simply ask myself what I learned from it.
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I just want to say that learning to be kinder to yourself takes time. As well as the willingness and dedication to continuously practice this mindset. But I have faith that you’ll be able to do it too. So here’s to a kinder and more compassionate you this 2020!
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