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‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’ is probably the anthem of today’s dating scene

October 11, 2019 Feather Casilan

Ever thought you had something special with that person? Something that would last but only to lose it as fast as it arrived? Well, ‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’ by Imelda Papin probably reflects our dating scene these days!

If you haven’t experienced it, good for you. But I’m pretty sure you know someone who has gone through it. Sometimes, people would come into our lives so quickly but would leave just as soon as they came.

And truth be told, years back whenever I hear Imelda Papin’s ‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’, I find myself laughing. I mean, how could that be possible, right? If you don’t know the song or can’t remember it, let me refresh your memory!

What a classic, right? And who knew this kind of “relationship”—if I could even call it that—is so terribly prominent in our society at the moment?

‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’ in the dating scene

You meet someone, get to know each other, share an attraction, and gradually lead up to a relationship. Or… after the good amount of time you’ve spent knowing each other, you realize it’s not going anywhere. That’s how it usually works, that’s how it should work.

But these days, it happens in such a very fast pace. Now, the “dating” part or the “getting to know each” other comes on to you so quickly with so much pressure. To the point wherein you haven’t even been on your 2nd date yet, and everything is already lost.

The meeting

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Lunes, nang tayo’y magkakilala
Martes, nang tayo’y muling nagkita

Everything was great when you met him/her. You’re actually even lucky if you met them in person! With our eyes and fingers glued to our phones, it’s usually just a “wave” on Facebook messenger to have a new prospect. And after a chat or two, the attraction begins and you just can’t stop talking to each other!

Moving too fast BUT it feels right

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Miyerkules, nagtapat ka ng ‘yong pag-ibig
Huwebes ay inibig din kita
Biyernes ay puno ng pagmamahalan
Mga puso natin ay sadyang nag-aawitan

Some say that “If it comes easy, it won’t last”. This may be true for some cases, but there are circumstances that when everything happens too fast, it still tends to fall into place to create something special. However, when it comes to our dating scene now, that may not always be the case.

Sometimes we just get stuck in a delusion that the sparks and connection you have can be bigger. So you jump headfirst without thinking of the underlying issues you both need to address first. Such as… Are you ready for this? Are you even emotionally available? Do you still have baggage from the past that you can’t stop clinging to?

All these important questions get set aside because you don’t want to ruin something that could be special. So when the “I like you. I want to date you but I’m not yet ready to commit” pops in, you just take the leap.

And so it ends…

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Sabado, tayo’y biglang nagkatampuhan
At pagsapit ng Linggo
Giliw ako’y iyong iniwan

Taking a leap is great, life is too short to overthink everything that happens in your life. But when things are going wayyyy too good with the person you’re “dating” whilst you haven’t established where it’s going, that is the ultimate red flag for what you have. And with just one teeny weeny problem, you can lose what you have just as fast as you got it.

Why? First, you don’t really know that person all too well. You have no idea how to deal with a quarrel or how to address them cos you’re still getting to know each other. Everything happened way too fast for you guys and you entered the dating stage too soon.

Second, one small fight or argument can open the doors through bigger issues. Maybe with that small fight, the question of what your relationship is will now crawl up the bed with you. True enough, both of you already established that you’re not looking for a commitment. But what the hell are you two doing with the sweet messages, the constant communication, and those dates, right? One way or another, someone would seek assurance.

Have fun… but with limitations

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O kay bilis ng iyong pagdating
Pag-alis mo’y sadyang kay bilis din
Ang pagsinta mo na sadyang kay sarap
Sa isang iglap lang nawala ring lahat

Sure, it’s fun to date. And it’s okay to not have everything figured out. Wanna go out on dates without wanting commitments? Sure. Wanna send those flirty messages but don’t want to DTR? Sure thing.

BUT…

Don’t let go of the lines “I like you”. Don’t tell a person you want to be with them when you’re not ready for a relationship. Why say those things if you don’t see a future in it?

Remember, telling a person you want to be with them and then telling them that you’re not emotionally available doesn’t work. All that would come to mind is that you want them to wait, and that’s not fair.

Because if you just want to have fun and let loose, then you have to set a line that you must not cross.

Just some food for thought

‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’ by Imelda Papin is a song that I thought I would never understand. It was released way back in my time and during the years, I still thought it was too exaggerated. But sadly, that happens a lot now in the dating scene. You start talking to someone, the connection is formed, it feels like it’s going somewhere… But then it comes to an end as fast as they said “hello”.

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When you’re going out there to explore and enjoy, just be wary of the words that come off your mouth (or what you type). You never know how you could inflict pain or ruin what can supposedly be a great friendship just because you jumped off that cliff too soon. Know what you want, clear your intentions, and make sure you yourself know that too.

How about you? Can you relate? Do you think ‘Isang Linggong Pag-ibig’ is applicable to what’s happening in our dating scene today? Share your thoughts by sending us a message on our Facebook or Twitter @UDoUPh. We’d love to know what you think!