Dear Filipino parents, your kids are not investments!
October 2, 2019 Shaina Dulay
Yesterday, a discourse about Filipino children and parenting took place on Twitter.
We can’t deny that Filipino family values are a lot different than those of our other Asian neighbors and of the West. Here, there are a lot of strict parenting rules because of the conservative society that we were brought up in.
However, another topic that isn’t explicitly discussed a lot is providing financial support by a child to his/her parents. Yesterday, a discourse about this happened after someone tweeted about how children are not their parents’ investment or insurance plan.
To understand more about that Twitter user’s perspective on that statement, read that tweet thread here.
Because the topic is a little sensitive, Twitter users gave of different reactions as well. Some are saying that the original statement is true while others reacted negatively – some even going far as to assume that the one who tweeted weren’t fully loved by her parents.
Maraming salamat sa thread na ito. Hasel din na ginagamit ng mga magulang ang emotional blackmail sa mga anak para lang makuha nila ang gusto nila.
— Panchito Miranda || Jay-r Trinidad (@Targrod) October 1, 2019
Very true. Kaya I’ve decided even before pa that I will only have 1 kid and ensure that he’ll have better future and that I’d also be able to prepare for myself once I’m old. Ayoko gumaya sa parents ko na 6 kami tapos walang napag-aral ng college. I had to fend for myself.
— Mina Palencia (@minapalencia) October 1, 2019
Yung oobligahin ang mga anak na mag alaga ng mga magulang nila ay hindi fair. Ang nangyayari ay hindi malaya ang mga anak na gawin ang gusto nila. Kaya marami ang hindi masaya because they are not in control of their own lives. If gusto alagaan, ge. Wag obligahin. Mali yun.
— Chinky San Agustin (@chinky_blue) October 1, 2019
Here are some tweets disagreeing with the statement.
depends parin kung paano ka pinalaki ng magulang mo, hindi mo siguro ganung kamahal magulang mo kaya ayaw mong ma obligang suportahan sila kapag hindi na nila kaya at matandang matanda na sila.
— J (@jet1187) October 1, 2019
W o a h. How do we put you back into your mother’s womb and abort you there? What kind of stupid batsht crazy logic is this? https://t.co/VJgoyi5onU
— insensitive queen (@nclzthl) October 1, 2019
To be frank, we agree with the original statement about how parents are not supposed to make their children retirement plans. As someone who grew up with strict parents and with friends who had them, I firsthand witnessed how some parents really had this thinking.
We get the thought of giving back to them because of all the sacrifices that they had done. However, children shouldn’t be OBLIGED to. Some state that they really want to give back because of the love that they have received, but we all have our different circumstances.
Undeniably, in this third-world country, a lot of children are suffering and giving up their dreams because of this. We are not saying that it is inherently bad for parents to want their children to give back, but it should primarily come from the child. Parents shouldn’t force their children to help.
That’s our opinion, but we are looking forward to your comments regarding this discussion too! Feel free to share with us what you thought of this topic by commenting down below! Or simply hit us up on our Facebook or Twitter accounts.